Any problem that persists is often due to our focus on that problem. Weight loss is no exception—we tend to become mentally attached to it.

You can gauge how mentally attached you are to your weight by how difficult it is to stick to your routine and achieve your goals. This attachment often manifests as self-sabotage, inconsistency, and a struggle to maintain discipline.

Changing Your Focus

According to Dollars Flow to Me Easily by Richard Dotts, we experience persistent problems because we focus on them, worry about them, and feel negative emotions toward them. However, when we shift our focus toward feeling good, our problems tend to resolve naturally.

I’ve experienced this firsthand. When I focused on problems, things got worse. But when I focused on feeling good, situations improved quickly.

Here’s how you can apply this shift in mindset to release mental weight and break free from self-sabotaging behaviors.

How to Lose Your Mental Weight

1. Stop Obsessing Over Weight Loss

If thinking about your weight upsets you, change the subject. If it frustrates you, shift your focus. Instead of dwelling on how hard it is to stay disciplined, redirect your thoughts to something that brings you joy.

2. Meditate Daily

Practicing meditation—especially in the morning—helps quiet your thoughts and cultivates positive emotions. Dotts explains that feeling good attracts positive outcomes. When you prioritize feeling good, you naturally make choices that align with your goals.

3. Prioritize Emotional Well-Being

Many believe that solving problems requires intense focus, but constant worry often keeps us stuck. Instead, challenge yourself to maintain a positive emotional state. If you slip up, acknowledge it without guilt and move forward.

4. Build a Healthy Lifestyle From a Positive Place

Define your fitness goals, create sustainable habits, and track your progress. Rather than fixating on weight loss, immerse yourself in a healthy lifestyle and enjoy the process.

5. Make Healthy Choices in the Present Moment

I’ve learned to prioritize how good I feel when I eat clean, work out, and stay on track. Making mindful choices now—not later, not tomorrow—prevents procrastination and strengthens discipline.

Elizabeth Benton’s Chasing Cupcakes discusses the power of present-moment decision-making. It’s a great read that reinforces the importance of conscious choices.

The Theory

If shifting focus works for weight loss as it does for money, then these mindset changes should help align us with our weight loss goals. By focusing on feeling good and building a healthy lifestyle, discipline and consistency will naturally follow—bringing sustainable weight loss results.

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