You’ve got your eye on a guy, but you’re not quite sure if he feels the same way. His signals are mixed, and you don’t want to be too forward—but curiosity is getting the best of you.
Maybe he’s the quiet type, not overly expressive, or perhaps past heartbreak has made you cautious. Whatever the case, it’s never fun being stuck in the “does he or doesn’t he?” phase.
To help clear things up, I asked some of my male friends—who are genuinely loving and faithful partners—how they act when they’re into someone. And straight from the source, here’s what they had to say:
1) He Wants to Be Around You
A guy who likes you will find every reason to be near you—even if there’s no real reason at all. He might “just happen” to be where you are or come up with small excuses to see you. Your presence brings him joy, and he never seems to get tired of your company.
2) He Responds to Your Messages Quickly
Unless he’s genuinely busy, he won’t leave your messages on read for too long. He enjoys talking to you, so he replies as soon as he can.
3) He’s Always Willing to Help
If he likes you, he’ll go out of his way to be helpful—sometimes even before you ask. Whether it’s offering you a ride, helping with errands, or just being there when you need him, he wants to make your life easier.
4) He Pays Attention to the Little Things
A guy who’s truly interested notices the small details. He picks up on changes in your mood, remembers your favorite things, and even notices when you’ve changed your hairstyle or nails.
5) He Checks Up on You
He won’t let too much time pass without reaching out. Even if he’s busy, he makes the effort to send a quick text or call just to see how you’re doing.
6) He Doesn’t Judge You
He accepts you completely, including your past. He doesn’t hold your mistakes against you but instead appreciates how they’ve shaped the person you are today.
7) He Encourages You to Grow
Even if he hasn’t confessed his feelings yet, a guy who likes you wants to see you succeed. He might suggest career opportunities, recommend books or courses, or simply cheer you on in everything you do.
8) He Respects Your Boundaries
A real man who likes you will respect your limits. He won’t pressure you into anything you’re uncomfortable with, and he understands that “no” means “no.”
9) He Tries to Impress You
He wants you to see the best in him, so he makes an effort to be on his best behavior. Whether it’s keeping his place tidy before you visit or dressing a little nicer when he knows he’ll see you, he wants to make a good impression.
10) He Listens to You
He remembers what you say, even the little things. If you mention something in passing and later realize he remembered and acted on it, that’s a clear sign he’s paying attention.
11) He’s Willing to Make Changes for You
Compromise is key in any relationship, and if he likes you, he’ll adjust certain habits to accommodate you. If he smokes and knows you don’t like it, he may avoid doing it around you—or even quit altogether.
12) He Values Your Time
A guy who is truly interested cherishes the moments he spends with you. He also appreciates any little thing you do for him and doesn’t take your efforts for granted.
13) He Shows Interest in Your Interests
If you’re passionate about something, he’ll take an interest too—whether it’s reading your blog, watching your favorite show, or learning about your hobbies. He wants to connect with you on things that matter to you.
14) He Introduces You to Important People
He doesn’t just keep you a secret—he wants you to meet his friends and the people he cares about. If he starts talking about you to his family, that’s an even stronger sign.
15) He Treats You Differently
Even in a group, you can tell he prioritizes you. His attention is on you, he listens more intently, and he makes you feel special compared to everyone else.
If you’ve noticed several of these signs, chances are he’s into you! However, every guy expresses affection differently, so the best way to know for sure is through open communication. Pay attention to his actions—because actions always speak louder than words.